Being patient

Good things come to those who wait: delay of gratification, turn taking and building endurance

Being patient is important for collaboration when it’s not all about one child and the child has to learn to wait his/her turn etc. The child can think of strategies to learn how to be patient such as finding something else to do in the meantime.

Your mum is finishing cleaning the house but you want to go to see the movies now

Be patient when things don’t work out the way you want. Try and find a distraction to help you wait or even offer to help your mum to speed things up.


Learning how to work together as a group

Cooperation requires children to coordinate behaviours together and work in partnership to achieve a common goal. This skill should teach children how to integrate many of the skills presented above and below such as being able to interact in group using nice talk (2), not interrupting others (15), setting goals (28) or even self control (16).

You and your brother work together to bake a cake for your dad’s birthday

Decide who is responsible which task, are there any rules that need to be followed? Discuss each step with each other and plan what needs to be done before doing it.

Accepting no

Dealing with frustration from the No

In collaborative work, it is important to learn how to accept no from someone. First, the child has to think about why he/she was told no and decide to do another activity

You mum said you aren’t allowed to play games as its too late and you should be in bed.

Think about why you were told no, identify how you feel because of this, think about how to calm down and move on from the situation.

Asking for help

Identifying when and why you need help, and learning who, when and how to ask

The first stage for this skill is to teach the child to identify he/she needs help, think about who to ask and what to say and take action.

A friend is being bullied at school and you need a teacher’s help to stop it.

First, identify the problem, think about who to ask and what to ask for. Remember to ask using a nice voice. Let the teacher know all the details and how you think they can help.

Being a good sport

Learning how to accept defeat positively and motivating people

Learning how to accept defeat positively and motivating people

You lost to one of your friends playing sports

It’s ok to look, accept you have been defeated, it doesn’t always work out. Walk up to your friend and tell them they played while, possibly shake their hand if necessary.

Being assertive

Calmly standing up for your or other points of view

Calmly standing up for your or other points of view. It is part of self-control (16) and children can use some of the strategies defined in skill 16

A classmate pushes you during a ball game.

Step back and identify how stressful the situation is. Think about how to respond to the other person and when doing so use a calm voice. Do not raise your voice or act inappropriately towards the other person.