Observing the conversation, deciding when to join, saying something relevant to the conversation.
To join a conversation, children have to learn how to look at the people having the conversation and smile, wait for the people to stop talking, talk about something that is similar to what the group is talking about and, if ignored, walk away and do something else.
Two of your friends are talking about the movie they saw last night.
Wait until its a good time to join in the conversation, approach your friends, join the conversation and find something relevant to say about the movie ‘Oh, I have seen it too’ or ask ‘How was the movie?’.
How and when to give compliments
You like the bracelet that your friend made you.
When giving a compliment make sure your body language is matching (e.g saying “you look nice” with a smile and not a frown). Look the other person in the eyes, say the compliment and wait for a response.
“Tom, this is Lucy; Lucy, this is Tom; both of you like chocolate”
Being able to talk to at least two people and say something about them to each others.
You introduce your cousin to a friend by saying “Tom, This is Bill” repeat with your friends name and say something about them.
Look at the two people, say the name of one person and tell him or her the other person’s name, once for each person. Eg. ‘John this is Kate; Kate, this is John’) and say something about them, maybe something they have in common, “you both like chocolate”.
Stopping other things, making eye contact, nodding or asking to clarify if not clear
The use of active listening helps to establish trusting and positive relationships. Children who are active listeners are motivated to ask appropriate questions and to offer empathetic statements towards others.
Your friend wants to tell you about the cake he baked yesterday
Look at the person directly; put aside distracting thoughts; focus on what she is saying. Show your listening; nod occasionally; smile and use facial and body expressions. Allow your friend to tell her story before you say anything and remember to ask if you don’t understand something.
Starting and keeping a conversation with others
Being able to start and keep a conversation with others.
You friends tell you about their holiday, you both need to make eye contact and keep the conversation active.
Wait for your friend to begin the conversation, look at them, walk up to them and ask a question. Wait for a response, reply and keep the conversation active by finding things to talk about.